why I’m not setting goals

Why I’m Not Setting New Year Goals

Why I’m Not Setting New Year Goals

Are you like me? Every year I set wonderful New Year Goals, and every year I forget about them by February 1st.

This happens for a a variety of reasons. I don’t put them somewhere visible, I set goals that are too broad, too specific or my situation changes and they lose relevance. It just doesn’t work for me.

So this year I’m changing it up. My 2018 new year’s resolutions aren’t goals. They’re behaviors.

– Discipline Gratitude –

With no numbers to hit or immovable destinations I can focus on what’s really important. Creating content that matters. Focusing my creativity where it makes the biggest difference. Changing my destination if I need to.

Discipline

While discipline sounds boring, it’ll actually allow me to be more creative. Removing unnecessary busywork and distractions will strengthen my  focus, creating more efficient work habits and an environment in which success happens smoothly.

I won’t lie, it’s going to be hard. I’m one of those messy creatives who struggles to finish projects without a deadline, jumping from one idea to another as inspiration takes me. My commissions are always completed on time, but my personal design collections and projects pile up unfinished. Wah wah waaaaaaaah.

Schedules and turning off the WiFi will be key this year. Disconnecting from distractions to reconnect with my purpose!

Gratitude

People have been throwing around the whole Gratitude mindset for years now, and honestly, I always thought it was a bit airy fairy.  It seemed like something for serene people who do yoga on the beach at dawn, not cynical realists like me. I struggle with mental illness, particularly self doubt and the impostor experience. I was having a major self doubt moment questioning my past decisions when Miss Lily Kate ( seriously the wisest person I know ) turned on the light with this gem…

 

“Self degradation stops where gratitude begins. You’ve got so much to be thankful for based on many decisions, some made for you, many made for yourself- a roof, food, a loving partner and friends, put that thought out with all that goodness”

 

The whole Gratitude shebang suddenly made sense.

It’s not just about being thankful for what other people do for you – which I am – but which also makes me painfully aware of my perceived personal failures. It’s about being grateful for where you are and what you have, and sometimes that means acknowledging that you made some of that happen yourself. The occasional fuck up doesn’t seem so crushing when you can appreciate all the small things you’ve done right.

I’m hoping adopting an attitude of gratitude will lessen my FOMO too.
While I’d love to be globe hopping with all my seemingly highly successful friends, that’s just not where I’m at right now.
And ya know what? That’s okay. I’ve got time. Time to make my mark by making other people feel amazing in their dream clothes. Time to get my husband and I’s business running so we can spend some off together. Time to build a pin up brand and community I’m really proud of.

My Goals Aren’t 2018 Goals

They’re life goals.

I’m excited to enter 2018 with clarity and purpose. I truly believe I’ll achieve more than ever, and I hope you’ll be with me when I do!

Creating content that’s valuable to you is important to me. I’m here to help you feel confident, own your body and dress like the pavement’s a catwalk. So tell me what you want ( what you really, really want ).  You can let me know what pin up, vintage or style related posts and videos you’d find helpful by leaving me a comment here, or on any of the social links below.

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Lets make 2018 our strongest, sassiest and most stylish year yet!

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      Velvet DeCollete

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