One Day To Go!

One Day To Go!

That’s right, you only have ONE DAY LEFT to Vote Velvet for the Miss Viva Las Vegas pinup contest finals!

This is a huuuuuuge deal for me (I mean HUGE). Representing my country, my message and everyone who believes in me at the world’s largest pinup pageant would be an incredible opportunity, and one I likely won’t have the opportunity to travel for it again – at least not for the foreseeable future!

BUT I NEED YOU TO VOTE VELVET!
It only takes around seven seconds.
I know you’re busy, but those feel good vibes from helping a fellow human will be worth it. 

There are two hundred applicants, and only the six with the most votes will fill the remaining spots in the finals. Voting closes at midnight on January 31st 2019 PST.

So…

  1. Visit the Viva Las Vegas Pinup Contest page
  2. Scroll down until you see this photo with my name under it.

Vote Velvet DeCollete to make the finals ofthe Miss Viva Las Vegas pinup contest 2019   

    3. Now hit that VOTE button!

It will ask you to enter your email and a security captcha – the captcha is case sensitive and you will need to include the space between the words. Don’t worry, they won’t spam you with emails, just one to confirm your vote!

And that’s it! You’re done!

 

Vote Velvet DeCollete for your Kiwi representative at the Viva Las Vegas Pinup Contest!

For extra credit and good deed vibes go on and share that link with your friends, family, co-workers, frenemies and strangers on public transport. (You can repost it from my Facebook or Instagram if that’s easier!)

Happy voting and thanks for your support!

With Style & Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

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Backstage

Backstage

1940’s stage manager vibes. 

All glamour. All business. All woman.

Outfit Details

Inspired by Katherine Hepburn this look is all about masculine tailoring, feminine textures and a take-no-prisoners attitude. For when you need to get shit done, and look good doing it.

Pair with a lipstick coloured by the blood of your enemies and take on the day.

Blouse | Thrifted
Bra | Pleasure State
Trousers | Alexander McQueen – Thrifted
Oversized Faux Fur Stole | Fluff Club by Velvet DeCollete
Gloves | Vintage
Shoes | Siren
 Small Fur | Vintage
Beret | Gifted

Photography | Mike Froger
Models | Velvet DeCollete + Rose Halfpenny

With Style and Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

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My Super Cute 1950’s Halloween Outfit

My Super Cute 1950’s Halloween Outfit

I intended to have this post out before Halloween, but (obviously) that didn’t happen, so lets say it’s a nightmare before Christmas.

I bought this adorably spoopy cartoon spider print fabric at Halloween last year. I didn’t get a chance to sew up an outfit at the time, but it was on the top of my pile for this October!

 

Construction & Design

Halloween calls for boldness and fun, and so did the super cute spider print! I contrasted the printed cotton with vintage orange linen from my stash for vibrancy and graphic appeal.

The natural fibers of these fabrics makes them perfect for the humidly warm October days in New Zealand. (Which means they’re also perfect for summer, when I’ll be wearing this because everyday is Halloween!)

The Top

I used my trusty Simplicity 1426, with a few size adjustments and different straps. The cups don’t sit as smoothly as the version of this top I made in cotton sateen, I may add some foam cups at a later stage. I stitched in a nude bra strap hook and eye set for the back closure, which ended up almost invisible!

The Skirt

The skirt is a classic self drafted circle skirt. I decided on a contrast waistband to emphasise my waist, with a back zip and hook and eyes. After cutting out the skirt I cut the top out of the leftovers – a great way to make the most of fabric when you’re using a pattern with small pieces!

 

Vintage Pinup girl Velvet DeCollete talks about sewing her cute spider print halloween skirt and top set, a 1950's skirt and top using self drafted and

 

Outfit Details

Skirt + top | Made by me
Floral Haircomb | Made by me ( Similar styles can be found in my Etsy Boutique)
Bangles | Thrifted
Shoes | Preloved

 

 

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Monochrome Minxes

Monochrome Minxes

Hellooooo darlings!

Firstly, apologies for the break in blogging.
I’ve been going through a very busy and stressful time for the last few months and needed to take a step back to avoid burning myself out.

Secondly, I’m baaaaaack!
While I’d originally planned to have these posts out before Halloween, it just didn’t happen. But I know that everyday is Halloween for ya’ll as well, and better late than never right!?

So let’s get back into some fun, spooky, retro style…

The Concept

We shot this set with Froger on the same day as my Spider Girl set. It was the first time I’d modeled alongside Rose Halfpenny, so we basically just winged it!

Rose is very much a stunning modern model – tall, incredibly slim and catwalk ready – while I’m petite, curvier and have a very vintage aesthetic. So this should could have looked kinda disjointed.  We created a cohesive look that combined our personal styles using monochrome outfits, combining modern and vintage influences, and shooting in black and white.

I styled a look focused on creating interest with layers and textures.  Vintage and fetish inspired modern pieces married sheer fabrics with leather and patent finishes, topped with my bespoke zebra stripe (faux) fur and muff. I really wanted to embody a juxtaposition of demureness, sexuality and outlandishness a la John Willie and Ryan Heshka.
Rose wore reproduction 1950’s lingerie paired with a gritty modern jacket and boots.

 

My Outfit Details

Beaded Spider Hair Pins | Velvet DeCollete ( That’s me! I make this pins to order)
Faux Fur Shrug and Muff | Fluff Club by Velvet Decollete – Custom Design
Gloves | Vintage
Sheer Blouse | Thrifted
Sheer Wiggle Skirt + Zebra Shoes | Preloved
Stockings | Voodoo Hosiery
Lingerie | Bras N Things

 

All photos by the excellent Froger Photography.

With Style & Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

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Spider Girl | Halloween Fetish Pinup

LET’S GET DRAMATIC.

If there’s one thing Froger and I do well, it’s high drama fetish pinup. Looks like the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, because his new assistant Kyrissa nailed our edgy style perfectly! But before we get into the details of this shoot, I need to tell you something  personal…

I was a hypocrite when these photos were taken.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I felt unattractive because I’d been unwell, gained weight and lost confidence in my body’s strength.⠀My inner demons whispered that my softer-than-usual figure wouldn’t photograph well. BUT I put on my confident face, gave myself a pep talk and got on with doing what I love – creating art and stories in front of the camera.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I realized I was being a hypocrite. I was seeing change as a flaw in my body, when I see it as natural and adore it in others. Why wasn’t I applying that same love I have for others to myself?

Seeing these final photos gave me that love. I absolutely adore them. They made me appreciate that my body can surprise me. That my curves can rise and fall like the tides and be beautiful either way.

The moral of the story? What our inner demons tell us isn’t true. Don’t let them hold you back.

 

Photoshoot & Style Concept

You’ve probably noticed that everyday is Halloween for me, so when it’s ACTUALLY Halloween things get extra kooky. In honour of the spooky season this shoot was inspired by spiders, awkward angles, Bettie Page, Helmut Newton and fetish elements! I wanted to capture a dramatic, unashamedly sensual side of my pinup style.

Heavily inspired by the arachnid world, my outfit plays on the contrast between the toughness of a spider and the delicacy of its web. Sculptured leather and glossy satin highlight the softness of flesh, mesh and nylon. Ballet stilettos, opera gloves and strappy lingerie bring to mind the long, articulated shapes of spidery legs.

In true ‘anything for the art’ pinup model fashion, I borrowed the ballet heels from Mike’s kit, even though they were three sizes too big for my tiny feet. I’m OBSESSED with them, once my 2019 Vegas trip is paid off I’ll be saving up for my own pair.  Creating poses that explore the visual beauty but physical discomfort that’s part and parcel of fetish fashion was key , and the fact I couldn’t put my weight on the too-big shoes forced me to pose in ways that didn’t involve standing.

 

Outfit Details

Spiderweb Bra + Knickers | Bras n Things ( Previous collection, no longer available)
Eight Strap Garter Belt | Shirley of Hollywood, altered by me
Leather Belt | Alannah Hill
Satin Opera Gloves | Vintage
Crystal Spider Hairpins | Custom made by me, similar items available in my Etsy store or by custom order.
Stockings | Voodoo Hosiery
Shoes | Photographer’s own

 

Hair & Makeup

Hair and makeup can make or break the cohesiveness of a look. For this high contrast look I applied a white eyeshadow with an aubergine cut crease (purples often look darker than black eyeshadow when converted to black and white) and winged eyeliner. Paired with defined and elongated brows a cut crease makes small hooded eyes look larger.

I kept contouring very minimal for a more authentically vintage look, finishing the makeup with a small beauty mark under my right eye.

For hyper-feminine vintage hair I wore a long clip in ponytail with my signature bumper bangs. Thank the gods these are black and white photographs because my hair darkened so much over winter that my ponytail doesn’t match well anymore!

 

 

Photography |Shot Kyrissa Kolisnyk, edited by Mike Froger.
As always, become a member of Froger’s website to see the full photo set, and many, many others.

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With Style & Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

 

Pssssst; If you liked these photos you’ll love my Boardroom Meets Bathtub post, and this tribute to John Willie x

 

Spider girl Halloween pinup Velvet DeCollete

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Vintage Witch | 1970’s Inspired Outfit

Vintage Witch | 1970’s Inspired Outfit

It’s October now (how did that happen!?), the month where I dress like the love child of Stevie Nicks and the spirit of Halloweens gone by.

Halloween aligns with spring here in New Zealand and isn’t widely celebrated, so I dream of a spooky autumn Hallow’s Eve surrounded by pumpkins and crimson leaves. While I hope to one day spend October in the USA or Europe, for now I  make do by making my wardrobe and life even spookier than usual.

What else could you expect from someone who lives in a haunted hotel?

This vintage witch outfit is inspired by the dreamy white witches of the 1970’s, using their crystals and spells for love and healing.

THE OUTFIT

1970s romantic vintage witch outfit Velvet DeCollete

 

It’s fairly simple as my outfits go. Just a hat and a dress.
No gloves, no shoes, basic accessories.
But with a dress like this, who needs ’em?

This bewitching dress is a vintage gothic dream. Inky black satin falls in glossy folds and the cut is impeccable. Delicate latticework on the shoulders and yoke creates just the right amount of texture and definition. The double sleeves are my favourite feature, the silhouette created by that cape-like oversleeve is so dramatic!

Created by iconic New Zealand designer Annie Bonza, this gown is one of the most precious in my collection. Owning such a beautiful piece of Kiwi fashion history is a humbling experience.  Considered a pioneer of boutique fashion, Annie’s signature ‘doodle’ style consists of braiding, ribbon, beading, embroidery and hand painting clothing with Māori and Polynesia influences. You can see some of that trademark braided lattice on this dress! Her designs are held in collections at Te Papa Museum and won awards at the Benson & Hedges Fashion Design Awards in 1971 and 1989.

If you’re not familiar with Annie Bonza, I recommend you visit this New Zealand Fashion Museum page to find out more about her.

 

1970s romantic vintage witch outfit Velvet DeCollete

1970s romantic vintage witch look by Velvet DeCollete

 

I made this witch hat from an old pre-loved felt hat I had lying around. Its crown is softly pointed, in a wearable  ‘daily witch’ style. The fluttery pink flowers are two hairflowers that I clipped to the grosgrain band for a romantic, feminine finish.

(Keep scrolling to find a quick tutorial for reshaping your own hat!)

I tied a dusty pink grosgrain ribbon around my neck to carry on those soft femme vibes, threw on a few silver rings and pronounced this outfit done!

1970s vintage witch dress Velvet DeCollete

1970s romantic vintage witch dress and hat Velvet DeCollete 1

HAIR & MAKEUP

In keeping with the romantic 1970s influence I chose a simple makeup look.  A swipe of pale green eyeshadow, bold liquid eyeliner and long lashes, with white eyeliner pencil on the inner rim to create that bright eyed effect. I did apply false eyelashes to the edge of my bottom lashes for the first time! I loved the bottom lash effect, but I wish I’d blended the edge in with liner a bit more.

Cheeks and lips are dusted with subtle peachy pinks, and brows are softly defined.

I left my hair in its natural curly state, and backcombed the bottom half for fluffy volume.

 

1970s Vintage witch makeup look Velvet DeCollete

 

DIY VINTAGE WITCH HAT

1970s vintage witch hat diy

 

I don’t know about you, but  cheap plastic witch hats make me cringe. They’re not sustainable, they don’t look good and the number of them that end up in landfill every Halloween hurts my soul.

Good thing ethical witches like you can make a vintage inspired witch hat with a wave of your wand! Or at least with nothing more than a thrifted felt hat and your own two hands.

Make your own vintage style pointy witch hat

  1. Find an old felt hat. I used a thrifted one that bought a few years ago. I forgot to take a photo before I started, but it had a standard round crown, and had become a bit faded on my hat rack, which doesn’t matter if you’re making it into a vintage witch hat!
    Now stick that hat upside down in a pot or bowl of hot tap water. Make sure the whole of the crown is submerged, I plonked a bowl in mine to stop it floating back up. ( The yellow in the water is just dye from the hat, don’t panic if this happens. )
  2. Once the crown of your hat is totally soaked through and warm, you can start shaping it! Put an old towel on your bench to catch the excess water and start gently stretching and pulling the crown into it’s new shape. If it starts drying out, just pop it back in the hot water for a minute.
    I created the pointed shape by holding one side of the crown against my benchtop like in the photo, and then pulling on the top side to stretch it out. I worked my way around the crown like this, making sure I kept my fingertips where I wanted the point to be.
  3. Every now and then check your shape and use your hands or the side of a bowl or vase to smooth our any unwanted dips or bumps. You can also lightly wet the brim and reshape that if you want to!
  4.  Try on your damp hat and make sure you like the shape. Then leave it somewhere warm and sheltered to dry – I left mine in the sun on my deck.

Now your hat is reshaped trim is with ribbons and flowers, paint it, glitter it, whatever you want!

 

Reshaping a felt hat into a diy vintage witch hat

Don’t feel like you have to stick to wide brimmed hats either! I also reshaped an old felt fedora into a 1920’s influenced witch hat.

With Style & Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

 

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High Tea & Curious Food with Miss Charlotte Cake

High Tea & Curious Food with Miss Charlotte Cake

These are the happy faces of two pinups who are about to stuff their faces with tasty tasty food!

Miss Charlotte Cake and I enjoyed a foodie gal’s dream day out, visiting the first Curious Food Festival, followed by tasting the High Tea at Hector’s Restaurant for the Very Vintage Day Out. It was a day of belly laughs and bellyfulls of utter deliciousness.

Of course we dressed in style. I opted for my strawberry field hat and corsage with a vintage gingham dress to make a perfectly picnicky looking outfit. Charlotte wore an amazing tropical print three piece vintage ensemble.

The Curious Food Festival

Held at Shed 10 on the Auckland Waterfront, the inaugural Curious Food Festival promised “12 city centre eateries creating their most imaginative and delicious dishes“. The teaser menu looked promising, and we showed up early to make sure we were at the front of the queue.
( Waiting in long lines makes us hungry, and you won’t like us when we’re hungry.)

One of the festival crew ran out asking to take our picture for their social media, which was super cute.

Our planning and patience paid off, and we managed to scope out all the vendors and get ourselves some treats before the crowds rolled in!

Spaghetti From Toto

First up was rich spaghetti cooked with brandy in a giant wheel of cheese. Toto delivered both scrummy food and entertainment with their Parmesan wheel pasta, cooked in front of each customer, and doused in one of three sauces and crispy bacon after being pulled from its cheesy nest.

We shovelled this into our faces in near silence, because it was So. Damn. Good. I’d happily eat this for a week, although my arteries my say otherwise.

Gelato From Lalele

Unusual taste combinations were a strong theme at the Curious Food Festival.

Lalele Organic Gelato were offering two special flavours alongside their usual gelato, cocolato and sorbet; Black Garlic, and Persimmon & Pine Needle.

I wasn’t brave enough to sample the Black Garlic gelato. Charlotte did, but her face said it all, garlic is not a good gelato flavour haha! The Persimmon & Pine needle however was surpisingly moreish. Rather than the Christmasy pine needle scent I expected, Lalele utilised the sap of the pine needles, creating a sweet honeyed taste that blended with the delicate persimmon flavour. We both snapped up serving and savoured it while appreciating the animated performance of the singer and guitar duo onstage.

Tarts from Scratch Bakers HQ

Our next stop was the delightfully tiny tarts prepared by Scratch Bakers HQ. Mindful that we were about to partake of a full high tea, Miss Cake and I both opted for takeaway tarts (although she sensibly chose four, and I went for nine to share my my family). Inventively flavoured to intrigue your tastebuds the tarts included a caramalised banana jam, maple curd and crispy bacon tart,  a beautiful pink strawberry jam, goats milk custard and rhubarb marshmellow tart and my personal favourite, caramalised popcorn, dark chocolate and popcorn custard, as well as espresso and lavender meringue based varieties.

The tarts were decadently sweet and I’m glad I saved them for later. They went down perfectly with a cup of tea the next morning!

High Tea at Heritage Auckland’s Hectors Restaurant

Lunchtime hunger sated, we strolled through the city to the tropical decor of Hector’s at the Heritage Hotel.

Joined by Ruth from the Very Vintage Day Out, we chatted to Executive Chef Gerard about his favourite high tea treats (opera cake) and his impressive vegan high tea menu. Gerard’s a bit shy, so he didn’t join us on camera while we tasted and talked high tea, parrots, VVDO 2018 and the fact I wave my hands around too much when I talk.

You can watch our livestream below for a good giggle, and our honest opinions on the vegan high tea options. ( Spoiler alert, even my non-vegan self thought it was totally nom-worthy).

Look like something you’d enjoy? Yeah it does!
Even better, you could win a Hector’s High Tea experience for yourself! Just book your Very Vintage Day Out High Tea and post a selfie of you enjoying it to go in the draw!

Photos | Velvet DeCollete, Miss Charlotte Cake, Lemongrass Productions

With Style & Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

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How To Choose Your Pinup Pageant Gown

How To Choose Your Pinup Pageant Gown

When it came to prepping for Miss Pinup New Zealand 2017, evening wear was the outfit I was most excited about. Looking forward to 19 Black Miss Pinup NZ 2018 it’s the category I’m most excited to judge. It’s the section that steps furthest away from our daily lives, transporting us a to a world of romance and glamour.

But it is so different from our usual clothes. How do you pick a pinup pageant gown? What if you’re not a dress kinda gal?

Don’t stress doll, just read on for simple ways to choose your pageant gown….or ballgown, prom gown, fancy work-do gown etc etc.

Go With Your Gut

Don’t overthink it. If I learned one thing as a bridal consultant, it’s that overthinking takes the joy out of picking a dress.

If your gut says wear green even though you alwaaaaaaays wear green, do it (I did). If you are leaning towards a mermaid gown over a ballgown, but can’t really explain it, go for the mermaid. YOU DO NOT NEED TO CONSIDER EVERY OPTION. The more options you have the harder it is to make a decision and the more stressed you will be.

I picked out blue for my evening wear, but when I went to buy the fabric it just didn’t feel right. So I went for what called to me. Guess what? It was green. No surprises there! Worried that I’ve worn green evening gowns before I considered other options, but in the end I went with my gut and it was perfect! You can see more of my evening gown here.

Pinup lifestyle blogger and fashion Velvet DeCollete shares her favourite 1950's inspired olive green evening gown

 

Category Is….Colour Darling!

Colour plays a massive role in how we subconsciously perceive people. Use this in your favour by choosing an evening gown colour that reflects the personality traits you want to embody! It’s also worth considering what pinup celebrities have been wearing recently. If you immediately think of wearing that colour or gown style, chances are your competitors will too.

Let’s take a look at what your favourite colours might say, and get some gown inspo from our favourite Hollywood icons…

 Red

You are sexy, confident and bold! Red says you are here to be seen. Pinup bombshells love red and it’s a common colour in reproduction clothing. Reds can range from romantic to raunchy,  so make sure the cut of your gown works complements the shade.

What's the best colour evening gown for you?

 

 Pink

Pink is soft, delicate and feminine. Bright bubblegum pinks appear confident and quirky, while softer petal shades hint at sensitivity and vulnerability. Pink can be a super fun colour, but be careful that the cut of your gown doesn’t look childish! Pinks and peachy colours look beautiful for those with fair skin and light hair, but paler tones can wash out ladies with dark hair.

What the colour of your evening gown says about you

 

 Purple

Purple makes you look regal, extravagant, and adventurous. Associated with creativity, power, wealth and decadence, purple makes a statement that you’re already royalty.

Choosing your pin up ballgown

 

 Blue

Blue projects loyalty, intelligence and level headedness (there’s a reason it’s worn by politicians, policemen, surgeons and nurses). There’s a shade to complement almost every skin tone and hair colour.  Blue is growing in popularity among winning mainstream pageant gowns, and can sometimes look a little ‘safe’, so go bold with your gown design.

How to choose an evening gown

 

  Green

You are earthy, safe and peaceful. Green is known to be calming, revitalising and restful on the eyes. It isn’t a common colour choice for eveningwear and can make you look quirky and creative.

Which colour evening gown should you wear?

How to Choose your pinup pageant eveningwear

 

            Yellow and Orange

You are sassy, happy and exuberant! Yellow and orange have a fun, carefree vibe and make people think of happiness and summer. They’re a bold choice for evening wear, but can convey a sparkling personality like no other! (Just ensure you don’t stand between someone in a red gown and someone in a green gown.)

Hollywood glamour evening gown colours

 

White

Pure, angelic and dazzling, white is a always popular color for pageant evening gowns. It’s also (obviously) a very popular colour for wedding dresses, so make sure your gown has details that set it apart from a wedding gown. I haven’t seen too many white gowns in pinup pageants, but if you’re after Shirley Mclaine ice queen elegance, it’s a stunning choice.

How to choose the right eveningwear for a pinup contest

How to choose your pinup pageant ball gown

 

Grey

There’s a reason is called a ‘ grey area’. Grey isn’t here or there, and it says the same thing about your personality. Combine that with it’s inability to stand out under strong stage lights and maybe it’s a shade best left out of a pageant’s evening wear category.

 

   Black

Black is the most popular colour in mainstream evening wear, making us feel simultaneously edgy, sophisticated, safe and slimmer. We feel formal in black.  In pinup black brings to mind gothic beauties and film noir vixens.
Black isn’t hugely popular in pageants due to it’s association with funerals, and the fact it can easily blend in to a dark stage backdrop. Having said that, if you look incredible in black, the fact few competitors wear it can help you stand out!

Glamorous black pin up and vintage evening gowns

 

What If I’m Not an Evening Gown Kinda Gal?

Evening wear isn’t just for femme women. Look to the gender-bending or male stars of old Hollywood for inspiration. Think silk palazzo pants, tailored jackets, tuxedos or jumpsuits in luxe fabrics.

Cruella De Vil meets Marlene Dietrich and Pinup Glamour in this black and white photo set featuring Miss Pinup New Zealand Velvet DeCollete and alt pinup fetish photographer Froger

We’re all familiar with the dazzling Marlene Dietrich, yes?

Blonde Venus Marlene Dietrich in a white tuxedo

And Remember…

  • Off the rack gowns might need hemming, so try them on with your shoes well before competition day.
  • If it looks too good to be true, it probably is. Avoid online sites like RoseGal and Retrostage, if it seems like an amazing deal on a well known design – It’s a knockoff. It will look cheap!
  • Practice walking up stairs and sitting in your gown so there are no surprises on the day.
  • Thinking about a bespoke gown? Get to your seamstress ASAP, as many of us are booked up months in advance of big events.

Most importantly, have fun and live the glamoooooouuuuuuur daaaaaarling!

With Style & Sass,

Velvet DeCollete

How to Choose your pin up pageant evening wear colour and style

 

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How To Look Confident (Even When You’re Not)

How To Look Confident (Even When You’re Not)

Fake it ’til you make it.

When it comes to confidence, that’s the best advice I ever got. Faking it can lead to making it, and real, actual confidence.

But how do you act confident when you’re not?
You act babes, you act like you’re the bomb diggity and that no one can tell you otherwise.
Here’s how…

Take Up Space

Anxious people make themselves as small as possible, hoping people won’t notice them. Confident people take up space.

Stand tall and straight. Imagine you’re being pulled up by an invisible string from the top of your head (you can thank my grade three ballet teacher for that one). Pull your shoulders back, push your chest out and keep your chin up. This isn’t how most of us naturally stand, so practice your posture until it comes as second nature. A good trick for this is to consciously correct your posture every time you walk through a doorway, until it becomes habitual to stand up straight!

If I want to exude extra confidence I put one hand on my hip for bonus sass – taking up even more space.

These photos show examples of poses that take up space!

Classic pin up girl velvet decollete poses in a 1950s black swimsuit with red roses while sheltering under a bright red parasol. Her brunette hair is in a poodle 'do with bumper bangs and she wears shiny red high heels

Pause & Pose

Confident people aren’t afraid of being seen. So pause, and pose.

Pause and pose for a few seconds when you make an entrance, whether it’s a room or a stage.
Pause before answering questions, because your answers are worth thinking about.
Pose for photos.
Pose when you’re standing in line or chatting to people and take up space.
Take your time and let people admire you!

You can see some mini pauses in action in this wee snippet, filmed by L’Amour Cartier during my Miss Pinup NZ swimwear walk.

Talk Slower Than You Think You Need To

I talk a mile a minute when I’m nervous. Most people do. Time seems to pass slowly when you’re speaking under pressure, but in reality, you sound like you’re on fast forward.

Speak at half the speed you think you need to.  Enunciate clearly. Take deep breaths. Pause.

Also don’t be afraid of silence. I say dumb, weird shit when I force myself to make small talk. I just find it so awkward.  Don’t feel the need to fill every gap in the conversation because you’ll only get flustered!

Smile

As we say in show biz, tits & teeth honey.

Smiling doesn’t just make you look more confident,  it releases the feel-good neurotransmitters dopamine, endorphins and serotonin in your brain, reducing stress and actually making you feel happier and more confident. Think of something you love to give you a genuine smile. (Faking it can look more like a grimace.)

Velvet DeCollete smiling tiki pinup girl on beach

Make Eye Contact

But don’t forget to blink.

Eye contact makes people feel a connection to you. Make eye contact as you speak to people to seem more self assured and honest. If you’re competing make eye contact with the judges. If you’re on stage, pick a few people in the audience to make eye contact with. Pretend you know them if it helps!

Just don’t forget to blink. Staring is creepy.

Mrs Greatnews is a perfect example of someone who looks confident on stage. Notice how she’s making eye contact with the judges, smiling and taking up space?

Don’t Fidget

I don’t know about you, but I read that in my Mother’s voice.

Fidgeting is a dead giveaway of anxiety. We do it unconsciously to calm ourselves. To appear more confident, keep your hands relaxed at your sides or on your lap. Try not to play with your hair, touch your face, or constantly check your phone. If you know you’re a nervous fidgeter, consider holding a handbag or a fan to keep your hands occupied.

Oh, and if you’re holding a parasol, try not to spin it if you’re waiting on stage with other people. It’s distracting and you’ll look nervous, or like you’re not paying attention.

So How Do We Fake Confidence?

  1. Take up space
  2. Pause & Pose
  3. Speak Slowly
  4. Smile
  5. Make eye contact
  6. Don’t fidget

Now go out there and fake it ’til you make it!

 

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